What’s Your Story? Leading Through Listening

One of the most powerful questions a leader can ask is simple yet profound:
“What’s your story?”

Over the years, I’ve learned that question has the power to change relationships, reshape teams, and reveal the heart behind the work we do.

When we take time to listen, we do more than gather information—we build bridges. Every story we hear becomes a bridge we can lead across.

The Power of a Question

When I served as a pastor, I became known for asking that one question. Most of those conversations happened over coffee—just two people sitting down, one cup and one story at a time.

I discovered that when people share their stories, they open the door to their hearts. They share their dreams, fears, values, and faith. And often, what begins as small talk turns into sacred ground.

Jesus said it best:

“Out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.”
— Luke 6:45 (ESV)

If we listen long enough, we begin to hear what fills a person’s heart. Their words reveal what matters most to them—their priorities, their pain, and their purpose.

Good leaders learn to listen that way—not just with their ears, but with discernment.

From the Church to the Marketplace

What I learned in ministry still shapes how I lead today.
Every person on your team has a story shaping how they work and why they care.

If you listen long enough, you’ll always find common ground—a shared value, a familiar struggle, or a common dream. It might take some digging, but it’s always worth the effort.

Listening turns workplaces into communities and coworkers into collaborators.

The Divine Intersection

I call this the Divine Intersection—the place where your story intersects with mine, and together they align with a greater mission and vision.

When stories connect, trust grows. Connection deepens. Collaboration strengthens.
Purpose becomes shared.

That’s the moment leadership becomes more than strategy—it becomes ministry.

Lead People, Not Tasks

Leadership at its best isn’t about directing tasks; it’s about developing people.
And people are shaped by their stories.

The moment you ask, “What’s your story?” you stop leading tasks and start leading hearts.

So, here’s the challenge for this week:
Who’s one person on your team whose story you need to hear?

Because every time we listen with intention, we lead with compassion.
And that’s where trust—and transformation—begin.

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